Thank you for your words. You described my feelings as growing up as a mixed race woman. I am now an older woman but the sporadic bullying I have had from both sides throughout my life in London coming to London in my teens from Kent, still astonishes me. It is nearly always women who are darker skinned and not British born. But also older Irish women. I think I have the best of both worlds and wouldn't change my ethnicity because I cannot and that is OK too. I am what I am. Sometimes racism gets muddled up with jealousy. I imagine it can be difficult perhaps, to admit feelings of envy re: a mixed race person in general when you may have been raised to think such a person was inferior and no threat to you. To suddenly feel threatened, as an older woman, by a mixed race woman who is getting the male attention they would like, could be difficult. Mixed race people of any mix, can be incredibly attractive, as you are. I just think we should just be kinder to each other... life is really too short and we are all beautiful in our own unique way. I just feel sad for that tiny minority of women who go out of their way to make me unwelcome at events meant for everyone. I wonder sometimes what events happened in their lives to make them want to show such hatred to someone they don't even know?
Absolutely amazing read, unfortunately I can relate all too well; mixed-race white/Pakistani female (with Irish grandparent!), having grown up in a predominantly white area too. The constant inner turmoil and struggle of attempts to identify where I ‘fit’, as if I’m a jigsaw puzzle.
Pele, I had no idea you felt this way about your colour OR anything else tbh. You can always contact me, I’m a true believer in you are what you are, so long as you are a good person everything else just isn’t relevant!
another good piece - as a middle child the title caught my attention immediately. I write about mixed race issues on my platform. I firmly believe multiracialism will finally kill racism and save America's soul.
Thank you for your words. You described my feelings as growing up as a mixed race woman. I am now an older woman but the sporadic bullying I have had from both sides throughout my life in London coming to London in my teens from Kent, still astonishes me. It is nearly always women who are darker skinned and not British born. But also older Irish women. I think I have the best of both worlds and wouldn't change my ethnicity because I cannot and that is OK too. I am what I am. Sometimes racism gets muddled up with jealousy. I imagine it can be difficult perhaps, to admit feelings of envy re: a mixed race person in general when you may have been raised to think such a person was inferior and no threat to you. To suddenly feel threatened, as an older woman, by a mixed race woman who is getting the male attention they would like, could be difficult. Mixed race people of any mix, can be incredibly attractive, as you are. I just think we should just be kinder to each other... life is really too short and we are all beautiful in our own unique way. I just feel sad for that tiny minority of women who go out of their way to make me unwelcome at events meant for everyone. I wonder sometimes what events happened in their lives to make them want to show such hatred to someone they don't even know?
Absolutely amazing read, unfortunately I can relate all too well; mixed-race white/Pakistani female (with Irish grandparent!), having grown up in a predominantly white area too. The constant inner turmoil and struggle of attempts to identify where I ‘fit’, as if I’m a jigsaw puzzle.
Thank you so much for your wonderful insight.
Thank you!
Hi! How can I contact Ms. May to join our book club discussion?
Nikki May? All her contact details are here: https://www.nikki-may.com/contact
I contacted them. They no longer represent Ms. May.
I've messaged Nikki, I'll let you know if she comes back to me!
BLACKFLAMINGO IS SO GOOD !!!!!!!!1 FIRE !!!!
I love Dean!
I relate to so much of this. 🥰
Thank you both for reading!
SAME !
Pele, I had no idea you felt this way about your colour OR anything else tbh. You can always contact me, I’m a true believer in you are what you are, so long as you are a good person everything else just isn’t relevant!
This was wonderful!
Thank you!
Excellent interview!!
Thank you!
we both have the same opinion woop woop!!!
another good piece - as a middle child the title caught my attention immediately. I write about mixed race issues on my platform. I firmly believe multiracialism will finally kill racism and save America's soul.
Please check out my stuff, thanks
Ric
Amazing story thank you so much
I took time to learn about south African as a teen actually got to meet friends of Steven biko
Being mixed race in london I thought was hard but I felt blessed not to be in South Africa
Your a great example to all of us to push to make ourselves better
Another brilliant piece
I struggled as a teen not knowing about the Caribbean side of my family but it's something I've learn to accept as I've grown
Charlie siddicks story about her father aline's much with myself both born in the 70's and an absent Jamaican father